Redefining “Boring Romance”

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The Real Truth about Romance & ‘Boring’ Men — and the Women who Love Them: Redefining “Boring Romance”

This is a great article about love and romance.  I am so very grateful for my dear husband.—Paula

1 Corinthians 13The Message (MSG)

The Way of Love

13 If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.

3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

8-10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11 When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12 We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13 But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.


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33 Verses to Remind Us We Do Not Need to Fear ANYTHING!


33 Verses to Remind Us – We Do Not Have to Fear–we-do-not-have-to-fear.html  (This is a good article)


1.  “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

2.  “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalm 56:3

3.  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

4.  “Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.” John 14:27

5.  “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7

6.  “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

7.  “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.” Psalm 94:19

8.  “But now, this is what the Lord says…Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1

9.  “An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.” Proverbs 12:25

10. “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4

11. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

12. “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34

13. “Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time.  Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:6-7

14. “Tell everyone who is discouraged, Be strong and don’t be afraid! God is coming to your rescue…” Isaiah 35:4

15. “Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear.  Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes.  Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds!  Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?  Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?” Luke 12:22-26

16. “The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?  The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalm 27:1

17. “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.” Psalm 55:22

18. “Immediately he spoke to them and said, ‘Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.’” Mark 6:50

19. “Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

20. “’For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.  Do not be afraid, for I myself will help you,’ declares the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel.” Isaiah 41:13-14

21. “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1

22. “The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.  What can man do to me?  The Lord is with me; he is my helper.” Psalm 118:6-7

23. “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25

24. “He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm.  He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” Mark 4:39-40

25. “The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.” Psalm 34:7

26. “But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats.” 1 Peter 3:14

27. “I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me.  He freed me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4

28. “Do not be afraid of them; the Lord your God himself will fight for you.” Deuteronomy 3:22

29. “Then he placed his right hand on me and said: ‘Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last.’” Revelation 1:17

30. “Jesus told him, ‘Don’t be afraid; just believe.’” Mark 5:36

31. “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” Romans 8:38-39

32. “The Lord your God is in your midst, A victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.” Zephaniah 3:17

33. “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.  I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”…He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.  You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday.  A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you…For he will command his angels concerning you, to guard you in all your ways…“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.  He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him…” from Psalm 91:1-16

“Be assured, He is with you in whatever you face, in the turmoil and struggles, amidst the anxious thoughts and the worries of life. He is there, strengthening, helping, and He holds you in His hands.

God is greater. He gives us the power to live courageously, boldly, fearlessly in this life, when many things that surround us would tell us to be afraid. His truth whispers strong and sure to the deepest core of our spirits:

“Do not fear.”

–Debbie McDaniel at–we-do-not-have-to-fear.html

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The Broken Way


These elephants remind me a bit of our Marley who is a snuggler and doesn’t let his size  get in the way of being a lap dog at heart. 🙂

This is a woman who expressed her heart through poetry about her experience with cancer:



I’d like to share a link to an online study with videos that is free for a very limited time that I hope will be a blessing to others here.  I am finding some treasures of truth in Ann Voscamp’s book, “The Broken Way”.  God has the most excellent plans for brokenness!  🙂 Paula

Broken Way Online Bible Study




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“God’s Grace Will Keep Pace With Whatever We Face”

"Cancer is only going to be a chapter in my life and not the whole story." ~Joe Wasser, Lymphoma Warrior:



Below is a  link  about  responding to people that we care about who are hurting when we don’t know what to say or do to help them.  I’ve been on both sides of that situation.  Sometimes it’s really hard to know how to reach out to people  that God brings into our lives who are going through tough times. We need His wisdom and good communication so we can best be the Lord’s Hands and Feet and Mouth Piece to each other! 🙂  

Letter to a hurting friend

I’m off to get my “IV Vitamin H” this morning and see my oncologist.  The every three week Herceptin is not really a vitamin of course, just a nick name for one of the big guns in my arsenal, a “targeted smart bomb ” of sorts for over expressed Her 2 cells.  I’ve switched from Wednesday to Monday appointments now I am no longer on weekly chemo.    Not a big deal except I discovered in the switch that I needed to make sure my infusion appointment was not scheduled even one day closer than three weeks apart or insurance would not pay for it which IS a great big huge deal with it’s price tag!  If you are interested in what Herceptin does for me ( I consider this drug a humongous gift from God to me and my fellow Her2 Warrior Sistas), here is a good description:




I like this quote.   Thanks for passing along Art’s words of wisdom, Margo.



1 Timothy 1:14 (NIV)

14 The grace of our Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.



Thanking God for grace mixed with faith and love poured over me and into me. And all because of Jesus! ( 1 Tim 1:4 The Message)






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The Best is Yet to Be

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Funny stuff:


“Had any other situation been better for you than the one in which you find yourself, Divine love would have placed you there.”  –Charles Spurgeon

“Think about this. The One who created and controls the world, the One who is the ultimate definition of what is loving, true, and good, and the One who alone has the power to finally defeat sin has chosen, because of his grace, to wrap his arms of faithful love and protection around you, and He will not let you go.” (Paul Tripp New Morning Mercies Jan 13)

God is encouraging me in many ways and I am so very thankful to be feeling better! 🙂  I am making February my “Phase One” month to concentrate on detoxing from the chemo and to work on building back up my body and returning to healthy, trim, and fit…one step at a time making progress in my body restoration/renewal/revival/ and re-all good things process.  I like the expression, “Don’t look back.  You’re not going that way!”   No matter what is ahead, my future is bright with the Lord in charge of my today and the rest of my life, and the best is yet to be!






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“I Pay My Oncologist Big Bucks For This Hairstyle!”

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Q:What did the bald guy say when he was given a comb? A:  “Thanks, I’ll never part with it” 

Here’s a funny song this lady made up:



When I was on chemo in 2011 and my hair was falling out in copious amounts after the first infusion, I asked one of my daughters to buzz cut it for me which was empowering. We did it together on vacation with my husband and kids supporting me through the tears and laughter. I lost nearly all my hair every where on my body that time (except I still had to shave my legs which was a kicker!)




 My oncologist told me that on the chemo regimen that I was on this time that I might not lose all my hair, it might just thin out.  I got it cut very short when a lot of it started dropping out and it did thin considerably. I am grateful though to have been able to keep about 1/8 – 1/4th of what I used to have and I’m glad I didn’t buzz cut it this time.  I consider what I have left, my head start on a new head of hair.   There are areas that you can see through to the scalp but it is starting to grow back now which is a blessing.  I’ve been trying to have a little fun with this baldness thing by sporting a variety of looks with a couple wigs in different colors and styles and using pretty scarves and hats when I’m out.  At home, I’m usually “as is”.



🙂  You might enjoy this commercial  that my friend Jacque shared with me (I did,thanks Jacque!):



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Even the very hairs of your head are all numbered! (Matthew 10:30)


Thanking God from Whom all blessings flow, including the gift of hair,



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No Mo Chemo!!!!!

What do you call an agnostic who is both dyslexic and an insomniac?

Someone who lays awake at night wondering if there is a doG. 😉


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I was scheduled to have my final chemotherapy infusion tomorrow, but due to worsening neuropathy symptoms, my oncologist and I both felt it best to skip it.  I am happy to be done with chemo, hopefully forever!  What remains in my treatment now is nine months of IV Herceptin every three weeks to complete one year of that medicine and an oral hormone blocker to reduce my risk of cancer recurrence.  I am grateful not to need radiation as well.


Thanks for praying!





“I tread no path in life to Him unknown,

I lift no burden, bear no pain, alone;



My soul a calm, sure hiding place has found:

The everlasting arms my life surround.”


Robert Browning from “God, Thou Art Love


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My Father in Law’s Passing

Psalm 116:15

15 Precious in the sight of the Lord
    is the death of his faithful servants.

Yesterday, January 16, 2017 my dear father-in-law met his Savior face to face. No more suffering, no more heartache, no more worn out body, no more anything that is not good…instead, he is forever in the presence of the One Who loves him and each of us the very most.




A lot of people have no idea of where they are going after they die. Even if a person lives to be a 100, time on this earth is a blink of the eye compared to eternity.  My FIL knew for sure where he was going.   I like the way that this link explains the way a person can get to Heaven and know for sure they are going there after they die.   It does not have to do with being a “good enough” person.  If it did, none of us would make it.  I have copied and pasted the message below.  John 3:16 is Good News for all of us!




“The gospel in its simplest form is ten words: “Christ died for our sins and rose from the dead.”




The centrality of the gospel is not based on what we do for Christ, but what He did for us. He has provided a way for sinners to be pardoned instead of punished. Through Christ’s death and resurrection, we can have a relationship with God that transforms our lives forever when we place our trust in Jesus alone.




John 3:16 offers a simple outline of the three things God wants us to know: His love, His gift, and His offer of salvation.





God’s Love – “For God so loved the world”


God’s love is so remarkable because He loves us not for who we are, but in spite of who we are. Harsh words, lies, selfishness—we are guilty of all of these and more. No matter what we’ve done, God still loves us. As sinners who have broken God’s commandments, we deserve His anger rather than his love. But God loves us so much that instead of turning His back on us, He turns His face toward us. Two thousand years ago, His love provided a gift only He could give.





God’s Gift – “that He gave His only begotten Son”


The gift is God’s Son—Jesus Christ. Because we have sinned, we deserve to die and be separated from God forever. The Bible identifies that place of separation as hell. But God gave His Son to take our punishment. Begotten means “one of a kind.” Jesus Christ is God’s unique son. He is perfect. Christ is our substitute. On a cross two thousand years ago, He died for our sins. As God, He came back to life, proving He had conquered sin and death once and for all.



Because the price for our sin has been paid, the way to God is clear and simple.




God’s Offer – “that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”



Jesus did not mean “whoever goes to church, is baptized, helps the poor, or tries to live a good life.” Whoever is not just the wealthy business person, the pastor at church, the volunteer at school, the alcoholic, or the struggling single parent—it’s every single one of us.




The word believe means to “trust,” “depend,” or “rely on.” Knowing about Jesus is not enough. We have to place our trust in Jesus Christ alone to save us. That means we must trust Christ as our only way to heaven, the only way we can have a relationship with God.




There is nothing more important than your need to trust Christ. You can tell God you are trusting Jesus Christ as your Savior through a simple prayer. It is not a prayer that saves you; it is trusting Christ that saves. Prayer is simply how you tell God what you are doing.




Dear God, I know I’m a sinner. I know my sin deserves to be punished. I believe Christ died for me and rose from the grave. I trust Jesus Christ alone as my Savior. Thank you for the forgiveness and everlasting life I now have. In Jesus’ name, amen.


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Me and Alexander on our Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Days

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I crashed last night about  9:30 PM after a throwing up after chemo kind of evening  and am now wide awake in the wee hours. Yesterday was a really tough day on multiple fronts. It was one of those all-day-long stressful, rough days with one thing after another after another that I would have preferred to have gone differently. Remember “Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day” story from when you were a little kid? My husband and I  had one of those in an adult version.  I guess we should move to Australia like Alexander wanted to, huh?   Ha, ha 😉




Here’s the book read aloud if you want a refresher from your youth: ? 




 I’ve been thinking about that “Please God, make this count” prayer that I read about and shared here a couple days ago.   I am  seeing more clearly in the nitty gritties of life that God does not want to waste anything, including the stuff I don’t like: big stuff, little stuff, and all the in-between stuff. In all the “stuff” we can hang our hats on the truth of Romans 8:28:

28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.




On a happier note, I will count a few of my many blessings of yesterday as well (I guess it wasn’t a completely terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day after all!):



My family are some of my “Chemo Angels” and during this journey with cancer they have looked for ways to be a special encouragement to me , especially on treatment days.  I am indeed blessed.





John surprised me with a second “Squirrel Buster” bird feeder that I’ve been hoping for. I am also grateful that my husband and I could be there for each other through the stresses of yesterday and the challenges ahead.      Hannah drew me a lovely picture and wrote a precious note and we had a great talk. I got to chat with Nicholas on line which is a treat.



Joy shared these quotes with me yesterday morning:

“On particularly rough days when I am sure I can’t possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is a 100% and that’s pretty good.”

“Hey, Beautiful One, You knew today would be a little tricky.  Hang tight, Love.  You are walking in the right direction. Just keep walking.” And her reminder,  “The Lord will never leave or forsake you, Sweet Sweets”.



How very thankful I am for family and friends!



I also had a wonderful visit with a nice woman next to me getting an iron infusion.  It was a “Divine Appointment” I’m glad I could be part of.  Neato!




Even though we crawled along I-4 for miles and got off early to detour the bumper to bumper traffic which resulted in being an hour late for my doctor’s appointment before chemo and Herceptin, we got there safely.




I would appreciate specific prayer for chemo related neuropathy and the latest: burning and tingling on my lips, around my mouth, and tongue during and after chemo.  Even the tip of my nose felt weird yesterday. The numbness in my feet and toes continues to be constant. Because of the neuropathy, there is a chance that yesterday was my last chemo treatment rather than what is scheduled in two weeks. It is not yet decided. We will see how the next two weeks goes with the neuropathy. We need God’s wisdom and guidance and help.




Also please pray for the many details and bumps along the way revolving around my elderly father in law who is progressively going down hill health-wise and is moving down from South Carolina to an Assisted Living Facility near us this weekend.  Thanks for praying!



I’m learning to lean harder on the Everlasting Arms which are wrapped around me, holding me tight.




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“God, Make it Count”


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Thanks for the laugh, Alan!  🙂


One little word that radically changed my prayers


This quote  is my take-away gem today from the link to the article above (Thanks E.M.!) :



“Instead of praying “God, make it better”, I need to pray “God, make it count.”



Good stuff!




This Wednesday is my second to the last chemotherapy infusion then I’ll be continuing my year of IV Herceptin every three weeks.  God, please make it count!



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